The goal of giving birth is to safely deliver the baby

When I was seven months pregnant, my OB/GYN told me I needed a C-section. When I told my Lamaze coach, she threw me out of the class in front of everybody else announcing, “Since you’re copping out you won’t be needing breathing exercises.” She was wrong. A C-section hurt like hell and I didn’t need breathing exercises. The entire point of pregnancy is to safely give birth to a child.

There’s absolutely ZERO reason to make mommies feel bad about the delivery plan they worked out with their physicians, midwives or other medical staff. Strangers don’t know sh*t about their bodies, values or personalities so they should STFU. I’m still astounded by how obnoxious that Lamaze teacher was: acting like she was peaceful and loving with her breathing techniques and then humiliating me in front of the class for “copping out.” Also, I needed those breathing techniques because recovering from a C-section is freaking hell. It’s major abdominal surgery and hurts like FCK!

I didn’t cop out. My baby was born 10 days early via C-section and both he and I did very well during and after the birth. That’s all that matters. My baby is now 25 and that memory is still very, very clear. I am still upset by the shade thrown at me for listening to my doctors.